Developing Self Esteem
Low self esteem is a problem with many people. Here is a brief list of people who are likely to suffer from low self esteem.
- People who have faced failures in the past.
- People who were sexually abused when they were young.
- People suffering from some type of addiction like drugs, alcohol.
- People who have relapsed into an addiction.
- People who have just come out of a relationship.
- People suffering from abuse (physical, emotional or both) from friends or family members.
- People with disabilities (mental or physical).
Low self esteem has been linked to depression. When you have low self esteem, you feel unworthy and unsure about your abilities (loss of confidence). Basically, when you have low self esteem, you have a negative opinion of yourself.
Low self esteem has a number of side effects such as social withdrawal, self neglect, reluctance to take on challenges or trust your opinion, eating disorders, emotional turmoil and anxiety, a cynical attitude towards life, excessive worry, lack of self confidence and social skills and many more. Low self esteem degrades your quality of life. This is why, it should be tackled on a war footing.
How to treat low self esteem?
Low self esteem is not easy to treat. Everyone suffers from loss of confidence at some point of time but most bounce back. A person with chronic low self esteem does not. It is almost as if low self esteem is hard wired into our brains (pessimism has a genetic component links to http://www.webmd.com/balance/express-yourself-13/positive-self-talk) Thankfully, there are many steps to improve your self esteem and win back your confidence. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Self esteem is actually internal and is not dependent on any person. You do not need to seek permission to feel good about yourself.
First of all, do not make assumptions about what other people think about you. Do the right thing and say the right thing, at all times. Next, do not compare yourself with anyone, nor suffer people who compare you to others. Gautama Buddha once said, “You, more than anyone else in the universe, deserve your own love.” Do not judge yourself on what happened in the past. It may not have been in your control.
You only fail when you do not learn from your past mistakes. Talk positive things to yourself and watch what you think. If you are still feeling low and demotivated, maybe you should visit a therapist who will help you deal with the problem in a professional way.
Need more help?
The therapists at Agor Behavioral Health Services are available to assist adults and children who need help developing self esteem and confidence. Contact us today for more information or to schedule a free 20 minute consultation to discuss your situation. Schedule an appointment by calling 630-621-5824 or send us a message.